As a part of your upcoming wedding, typically the night before, the entire wedding party, close family members and friends, and out-of-town guests will gather for dinner in celebration of the next days event. The rehearsal dinner is a time of sharing, laughing, crying, and just relaxing after spending a lot of time planning the most important day of your life.
The great thing about the rehearsal dinner is that you can choose a casual or formal theme, depending on your personal preference and the theme of the wedding Just keep in mind that there is no wrong or right so do what you want and enjoy. If you want to stick with tradition, then the grooms family would be responsible for the bill. However, many couples now have the luxury of both parents working together when it comes to the final bill.
While the rehearsal dinner is generally held the night before the wedding, you can have it up to a week before if that works best for you and the guests. To get started, you need first to determine who the host of the dinner will be. Again, the traditional way is for the grooms family to pay but both parents can go in together. Once that decision is made, you would then work with your future in-laws to decide on where the rehearsal dinner will be held, as well as the theme. Some great options include the following:
Although the out-of-town guests might not be exceptionally close or related, the proper thing to do is to invite them to the dinner. After all, they have traveled specifically to see you exchange wedding vows, the least you can do is reciprocate. The menu is something that you should work out with the host. While the ultimate say belongs to you, it would be nice to have their input.
- Formal Dinner at a five-star restaurant, museum, or art gallery
- In-Formal Dinner at a restaurant, hotel, or in white tents on the beach
- Casual Create a barbecue, Luau, or have the dinner at a friends home
Once all the arrangements are made, all you have to do is show up and enjoy the evening. This time can be used for the wedding party to work out any last minute details or discuss things that are not yet settled. As an example, perhaps the Bridesmaids are not sure where they need to stand or maybe the Best Man is not sure, when he hands the ring to the groom. These details can all be discussed so that everyone feels 100% comfortable for the wedding day.