Have you been asked to serve as Best Man in your brother or best friends wedding and you know that part of your responsibility is giving the toast but you are worried about doing it right? Perhaps you are the brides father and you want to offer her and her new husband a special toast but are unsure where to start. Instead of feeling stressed, relax and have confidence.
The act of toasting dates back thousands of years. The best thing you can do is to conduct research and practice. The more time you can spend rehearsing what you ill say, the better the speech will be. Just remember that you want to keep your toast to just a few minutes and even though you might be tempted, never bring up past dating practices and say nothing that would embarrass the newly married couple.
When you conduct research, the key is to talk to family members and friends to learn about romantic experiences or special moments. These would then be shared with the guests to help them have a little more insight into why the couple fell in love, what they enjoy doing, and why they decided to get married.
Another important aspect of giving the toast is to know the audience. If the guests were primarily an older group, then you would want to focus on things that will evoke happy memories for them. The goal with the toast is to honor the bride and groom, as well as make the guests feel happy and content. In fact, experts will tell you that your toast should create three things in your guests action, thought, and feelings. Therefore, if your toast hits on all three, you have a better chance of success.
While some people can write and memorize a toast with no problem, most people cannot remember. Therefore, do not worry about writing the toast down if you need to. In fact, many people use cue cards to help keep them on track regarding time, as well as subject matter.
If you know that you are not a funny person, then whatever you do, do not try to be one when giving the wedding toast. In fact, many people believe that a toast filled with idioms and jokes is not well received. For this reason, keep to what you know you do best!
Always make sure that you introduce yourself, explaining to the guests how you know the couple and why you are celebrating their marriage union. Then after giving a brief opening, you will offer your main toast, or the body. Finally, finish the toast with a closing, which thanks the guests for participating in the wedding and inviting them to celebrate with you on this very special day.